It’s the eve of my big Miami girls trip that we’ve been planning for months and I’m in my bed crying.
Sam broke up with me in October, but he still makes appearances in almost all of my dreams. I was just cleaning my room and I stumbled across a book he loaned me. All his t-shirts are at the bottom of my dresser because I don’t want to give them back but I can’t stand wearing them. It’s been five months and I just caught myself in my bed with The Cat, actually whispering out loud to myself “I miss him so much. I miss him so much. I miss him so much.”
It’s not that it’s the day before Valentine’s, because I don’t really care about that. It’s not really even that he’s leaving this week for a trip Costa Rica and I was supposed to go with him. It’s that I miss him so much as a person that it actually hurts. I feel like I’m drowning in it. Everyone keeps telling me that it was a terrible relationship and cites the many times he didn’t text me back or rolled over and went to sleep without saying goodnight. The time where he went and had drinks with an ex and didn’t tell me about it. All the hidden texts, all the shadiness. The fact that he never wanted to go on dates or even hold my hand.
Maybe they’re right, and maybe it’s cliche, but they don’t know him like I do. And I still love everything about him, from his mismatched sheets and prized salt water aquarium to how much he does for other people. He holds so much inside him and is so closed off, but we had so many wonderful moments while we were dating. We completed each other, even though it might have been more fire and ice than yin and yang. He made me happy like nobody else ever has. It’s something that nobody on the outside could ever really understand. I know that’s what everybody says. I know this is classic textbook bad relationship and I know I’m not any different.
I’m just sitting here thinking of all the ways things could have gone differently. Our issue was timing more than compatibility, and maybe if we tried again things could be different, but I know that decision, if it ever happens, has to be his. If I drag him kicking and screaming into a relationship, it will never make me feel fulfilled and safe. I know I deserve more than what I was getting from him, I’m trying to hard to move on but all of these dates and all of these distractions just aren’t doing it for me.
Thinking about all of this has just exhausted me. I’m a puddle of tears listening to my breakup mix for the umpteenth time. I just wish I could let him go.
ALRIGHT DUMB BUTT THAT’S ENOUGH. Have another Oreo and move the hell on. Get excited for Miami.
It is 10 degrees in NYC and 70 degrees in Miami and I could not be more stoked about the impending 60 degree temperature jump. Have not packed or mentally prepared The Cat for her abandonment.
Packing is going…well. I have currently packed ten pairs of shoes which Roomie has deemed excessive for a six day trip. I love shoes. I love shoes the way some people love crack. I cannot bear to leave any of them behind. I’m already traumatized because my favorite TYPE of shoe is boots, and I am not bringing any of my 14 pairs. South Beach is not fit for boots, Roomie says.
I have no room in my suitcase for my arsenal of hair care products. Need bigger suitcase.
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Oh sweetie that’s the worst! I once had a boyfriend it took me AGES to get over. It totally sucks! Truly, I’m not trying to just pimp my books– but I have one you can get on Kindle if you just can’t get over it! It’s called, From Heartbreak to Wholeness: 12 Steps to Healing from Heartache. I wrote it because it sucks when you’re stuck. Sending love (regardless of whether you get my book or not)!
Thanks, Aimee! I appreciate the support. I’ll look into your book! Thanks for reading!
Sounds like a girls getaway is just what you need! Have a fabulous time!
Btw, I’ve just nominated you for the Sisterhood of the World Blogger Award.http://lifeaccordingtojamie.com/2015/02/15/sisterhood-of-the-world-blogger-award/
Oh my goodness, just got back and saw this. Thanks so much Jamie! I’m honored! 🙂
Terrific post; I hope your trip brings much fun, happiness, and release! 🙂
Thanks so much for reading! We had a great time!
Oh my gosh 😦 Hun, I am sorry. Please don’t cry- I’m originally from Miami, it’s amazing and the perfect place for a getaway! Have a fabulous time!!!!!!
We did! It was wonderful! Miami is such a beautiful city, you’re lucky to have spent some time there!